Why children experience fear differently – and what really helps
👶 Children and Anxiety: Why Regulation Matters More Than Reassurance
Anxiety is a part of growing up. Yet, it can be heartbreaking to see your child tense or upset. And honestly? Sometimes it's frustrating, too. Because as a parent, you see the bigger picture—you know the sleepover isn't scary, that the new class will be fun, or that camp is full of wonderful memories.
But... your brain is mature. Your child's isn't yet.
🧠 Why children experience fear differently
Children experience the world through a different nervous system. What seems "not so exciting" to you can feel like a real threat to a child. Not because they're exaggerating, but because their brain and body are still developing. They have less life experience, and their nervous system is more likely to go into stress mode .
What happens then?
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The brain switches to fight, flight or freeze mode
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They can no longer listen or think properly
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Reassurance (“it's not scary”) no longer works – because the brain doesn't hear it
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Your child shuts down, becomes angry or clings
Sound familiar? You're not alone.
🧩 The key: safety and co-regulation
What children need isn't explanation, but regulation . Or better yet, co-regulation . An adult who stays calm and helps the child calm down again.
A child who feels seen, supported, and safe gains space in their nervous system. And from that secure base, courage and resilience emerge.
Because only when the body feels safe can the heart open again and the brain learn again.
🌿 Powerful, natural tools that really help
Fortunately, there are tools you can use daily to support your child's nervous system. Consider:
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Essential oils such as Lavender, Orange and Peace & Calming
→ in a roller on the wrists or through a diffuser in the bedroom -
Pressure and deep touch such as a weighted hug or (hand or foot) massage
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Space allows your child to vent and listen without immediately offering solutions
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Calming routines before bed or before leaving for school
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Grounding with scent : with a calming scent roller in the jacket pocket or backpack, your child feels connected and safe.
💡 During exciting moments like a new class, a sleepover, moving, or camp, preparation through scent and touch is invaluable. It helps the body remember: "I'm safe, I can relax."
What mothers say: "It's so wonderful to be able to help my child quickly and lovingly with these powerful tools. It gives me so much confidence!"
💛 Parenting with gentleness and science
At Suzanne Shares, we combine knowledge of the nervous system with holistic tools like oils and biomarker scans. Not vague, but biologically sound and lovingly applicable to every family. Your child has a unique roadmap to well-being: both physically and mentally.
Want to learn how to better support your child through stress or anxiety? Request personalized advice or browse our selection of child-friendly oils and routines.
✅ From fear to courage: give your child a safe base
A regulated nervous system is the strongest foundation for growth, courage and confidence.
✨ And that starts with connection – with yourself and with your child.
➡️ Discover the natural support at Suzanne Shares and give your family more peace and resilience.
